I was thinking today, infact this thought comes to my mind
very often that why are we not satisfied with our life? I mean I can’t
generalize but I can say most of us are not happy with where we are and what we
are. Most of the people try to be happy
and satisfied by external factors and internally they have a sense of
dissatisfaction. I gave it a deeper thought and realized we always want more. . . I mean more and more. When someone wants
to achieve so much it’s because he is not satisfied with his present state or
looking at others he feel small and so strive for better. May be few people are
very passionate about doing something but they surely demand “Importance and
appreciation” in return.
Let us understand it a little better. Let us talk about
someone who wants to be famous, and who wants to be on the top; someone who is
really passionate and works really hard to beat others. Now, when he works hard,
and strives for success - what does he actually want in return? Is it just the
success? If yes then how will he be successful? So, let’s say he was able to do what he wanted to do in life but still he is not
happy.
Can anyone guess why?
Here is the thought process that goes along with success.
Success has different meaning and dimension to different
people. For some success is as simple as earning two times bread and meal,
having a family, kids, and a routine life. These are the people who believe
success is raising kids and taking care of them. These are the people who think
about family first and then about
others. For them it does not matter that how much Anil Ambani or Angelina Jolie
is earning but for them what is important is what is that their kids want and
how to complete their kids’ education in a good college.
Now let’s talk about other kind of people – The one who always wants to be successful but their
definition of success is completely different from what I have mentioned above.
When they say they want to be successful, then for them life
is beyond wedding, wife/husband, kids and their family. For them success is comparing with others and
be on the top notch. For them success is “Appreciation”
and “Importance”. Also for them
success is huge fan following and people telling them that they are a role
model. If they do not get all this then they consider themselves “Not so successful compared to others”.
So if you don’t appreciate them, or they don’t get importance they will
probably do something else that helps them to achieve that.
What is the basis difference between two kinds of people?
The first kinds are Internal
driven, and does not depend on others to call themselves successful.
While the second kind of people are the one who are externally driven. They need a lot of
praise from others to consider that they are actually successful.
With this post I just wanted to tell one thing – Your Life
is your life. If someone considers you a failure then you are not at all
answerable to them. You decide your priority and you decide what success means
to you.
Talking about inspiration we all have different inspirations
in life that motivates us to do things and follow our dream. Not necessarily
that your inspiration should be actor, or a writer or a famous business person but
inspiration can be anyone who just motivates you to do things in life – things can
be as small as cooking or as big as becoming an actor.
Inspiration can be anyone – even a factory worker can be your inspiration who teaches you that hard
work is important in life. A house wife
can be your inspiration who teaches you to sacrifice and becoming a mother
leaving her aspirations aside. A not so
successful person (unsuccessful in your yes) can be your inspiration if he
is happy for what he is.
If you are happy in what you have, no matter how small it
is, then no one is more successful than you. And if you are not happy even
after you have so much then no one is unhappy than you. Leave aside this show
off where people show their cricket match passes, or restaurants pics, or their
new watch. Believe me we all do the same things what others are doing, just
that for some appreciation is needed at every step to grow while others are
just self-motivated. The more you be on the self-side the more happy and
composed you are.
So I would conclude this with few things:
1.
You define what you are.
2.
You define your aspirations and dreams.
3.
You define what you want to achieve in life.
4.
You define your
success.
5.
You define your happiness.
6.
Last but not the least – you define your LIFE.
You know who you are,
so stop pretending it to others who don’t know who you are!
