WHEN I talk to you,,, it means many things.

I am a little pissed off on certain things these days. People (exceptions are always there), these days, believe me, have nothing else to do other than being online on Facebook and chatting and making new friends. Yes, I agree I am equally active on Facebook and you will see my updates quite often on my page and my personal profile. But when I talk about these people they are on Facebook for making relationships, for friendships. These people spend their whole day chatting – chatting and chatting with unknown people and trying to know them.

I update my status about the book (mostly), about the promotion activities, I upload few pictures and people tag me in pictures. For me it’s a necessity to create awareness among the people about the book. Since I am also working on my next book I need to keep my audience engaged and keep them updated about my happenings. Public appearance is a must for people like me. Facebook is the most effective way of advertising platform and people actually relate success to your Facebook page likes. Believe me or not but they do!

Debut Novel "My vows remain unchanged" is out in market.

Ha! I have no idea what should I write now. But just to let everyone know the book "My vows remain unchanged" is out in the market and is available on almost all the online portals in India. If you are love story reader or have ever been in love or are in love, or have lost someone's love in your life then it's a must read for you.

Reviews on flipkart are already up and also you can check the facebook page for more information on the Novel. Do buy and read it. I am sure it's going to take you to the new world of love with lot of suspense, romance and a good story.

You can buy "My vows remain unchanged" from following online portals.

http://www.flipkart.com/
http://www.crossword.in/
http://www.infibeam.com/
http://power-publishers.com/ -for People residing in India and outside India both.
http://www.uread.com/ - for People residing in India and outside India both. Better service.:)

Also you can follow the FB page. 

https://www.facebook.com/authoramrita
https://www.facebook.com/MyVowsRemainUnchanged

Will wait for the reviews/feedback on "My vows remain unchanged".

P.S: One thing I have learned..it's very difficult to promote a product.. :)

I have a Dream, letting me not to sleep!

Probable cover of the book. May be,may be not.

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"I am going to be a doctor" I told my mom when I was little and tiny. My dad said " yes, we want you to be a doctor and brother is going to be an engineer". Wow, I am going to be a doctor daddy? Then my name is going to be like Dr. Amrita... Isn't it daddy? Mamma did you hear.... My name is going to be “Dr. Amrita". Brother, haha I laughed at him and said..I am going to be a doctor. What are you going to be? An engineer? Boo boo. Living my dreams I ran outside the house. I told all my friends that I am going to be a doctor. We played hide and seek and I got home. Having dinner at the dining table..I was so excited about the dream to be a doctor. I shouted with a spoon in my hand..Yeiyy mamma I am going to be a doctor. Doctor...Doctor!

Top Rules to be Followed in Blogging....

Alright, there are people who are continuously pinging me, messaging me and asking about how they should start writing, and what should be the thought procedure and how to get more visitors to the blog. Well to be frank, there is no one way to write, or to attract the people to your blog. But there are few things that I follow while writing and always make sure to follow certain points so that people read my blog.

A Goal-free Life.......

Do you have a goal in your life? I mean have you decided what do you want to become in you life, or what do you want to achieve, or like after five years where do you see yourself ? No..you don't have? Are you kidding me. We all have goals in life, I mean atleast most of  us( with exclaimed expressions I told my friend). Our conversation continued and I asked " Then what are you going to do. I mean just be the way you are? He answered very calmly with a kind of satisfaction in his eyes  " Yes, what else I need in my life. I have a job, I am earning well, my parents are looking for a bride. I will get married." Wo Woo hold on. "So you mean to say you will get married in like few months". "yes I will" he said. I continued "Then what about your career? I don't think you have achieved enough to settle down. I mean we have so many things to do in our life. It's not that getting a job is the only purpose of life or is it?. "Well it is for me" and our conversation ended giving my mind a thought about goals in life. Well I should say a Goal-free life.  

Yes Mr. Attention seeker We're listening...

He says " oh ya i know i am the best. He needs us to follow where ever he goes, he always wants people to listen to him. And when no body did, he sit in one corner so that people should ask for him. He always, always and one more time...always..relates things to himself. In other words, if i say you know..i don't like the chocolate ice cream. That's it, he will start sharing his OWN experience and the blah blah blah..saying that even he don't like chocolate ice cream..and he likes mango and the strawberry..and he always have ice creams on the weekends..and how once he was crazy to have a chocolate and he went to the ice cream at 0200 hours. Huh..I know this has happened to you as well, many times. You know why we all have experienced it ? Because there are very few species on this earth who are actually listening to others. Others are the 'Attention Seekers'. This is the first quality of an attention seeker. That they always and always talks about themselves. I have a friend of mine. She will always talk about her and the worst part is she only listens to what she wants to , rest things will be unheard. And when later i say..." I told you right the other day?" and she goes all blank. Saying..Na...you did not. Usually our conversations are like this :

She : Hey Amy, whats up. What are you thinking about?

Me: Hi..nothing as such. All well. Just thinking about the shifting thing.

She : Oh you are shifting?

Me: yes..i told you right. That i am going to shift this march 1st.

She : Hmm...ok..i don't remember. Number 1 thing she don't remember.

Me : Why are you rolling your eyes all over the cafe?

She : No..i am listening to you.. Number 2 when she is distracted because nothing is going on as per her interest and she is looking around the people. And as well she is waving hands to people known to her, and giving some gestures.

Me : okay..so what are you doing here..?

She : Nothing..just came with a friend..

Me: oh okay..so what else?

She : oh, you are super busy these days. just don't have time for us. How much do you work, atleast take some time for friends. Look at us...and she starts to talk about herself. So finally she herself starts talking about herself.

By that time her friend comes..and she just leave saying a normal or may be a less than normal "bye".. The problem with the ATTENTION seekers is that they can't be in the group for a long time. Because then they don't get the whole lot of attention. When you are in a group, you know people won't be that bothered to look at you, or what are you up for. So they tend to walk away from the group, and talk minimal to not at all. And they also know..if they are gonna talk less people are gonna ask.."Hey,what happened to you? Are you alright". And that's it they will start.." oh ya..i am okay. just that last night i couldn't take enough sleep because of lot of work, and blah blah blah!!!!!

So the few characteristics of an Attention seeker can be:

Number 1 : Talk about themselves.

Number 2: Relate to each and every thing you say to their experience, and before you even finish your saying they will start saying..hm..i don't like that as well..but i love that...and also the ................

Number 3: Will always do things that grabs people attention, like Working a lot..and then letting the world know by their mouth..or like...following a religion and then praising about it.

Number 4: Talk less when in group of people, and more when with two or three people. Because in small group of people, they can create a great impression of themselves but in group, they know..few will surely be not interesting in listening to them.

Number 5: Will be always be active, and will love when people tell them that they should take rest..they should take care of themselves..and then the reply that they give will be.." yes, but i love the way i am living my life" hm..really?!!?

Number 6: Attention Seekers will love to be a discussion topic of the group. or they will enjoy that people are teasing them and trying to talk about them. They feel it as a accomplishment and will tell people that..these guys will always tease me and make fun of me.. Well Mr./ Miss Attention seeker that is what you want.

Number 7: They love when people say " oh ..without you we don't enjoy the breaks". It makes them feel valuable.

Number 8: They have this feeling that people always talk about them, and they are the hot discussions in the group. and they are proud about it.

And last but not the least for sure

Number 9: They will always try to do things differently than others, even if not needed.

okay, so Mr. Attention seeker we are listening !!

P.S : Also they will show that they are the only one knowing things going around in the world, and they are the only believer of everything say like God and humanity .

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Existence does not MaTter ?

I saw her. I found her hard working and focused. I was a new hire then. She was one among the senior in the team and we just had one more with such great experience in the work that we do. I thought people respected her. I thought she holds great knowledge about the work. I was happy to work with her. A month later she went on leave for her marriage. Its long time that she gave to the company (complete 7 years). I assumed her absence will be felt by all of us. Especially by her friends and colleagues who joined with her. Nothing happened as i thought. They used to come and back bite about her to me. Since she was the first senior with whom i worked i had that respect for her. But when people blabbered about her, and said something that i never expected they will, I was in state of shock. Her existence does not mattered to any one of us. We all were capable enough to perform our own work, we had other seniors to assist us with our work and help solve our issues. In a month when she returned of her marriage, no body bothered to be that close to her to talk to her personally. We all were prepared for her to leave one day. People started maintaining distance from her, and mind their own business. People started looking at her faults all of a sudden saying 'She comes late always, and leaves early. She don't know how to manage a team. She is really not at all good in communicating and BLAH Blah...bLAH....' I wondered then how come you guys didn't see all these faults in the past 6 years of her career? I understood that's how the world is..Out of sight, out of mind. In other words her existence does not matter to any one of us.

Observing the situation i understood that people didn't wanted to get associated with her or be called as her friends as she was losing her identity. She was losing the respect that she earned all these years because of not focusing on the work, concentrating on work, not being regular to office, because of her a kind of negative attitude, manipulating things and few other things. Since her career was on stake, her so called friends started maintaining distance and slowly stopped talking to her. They were worried what if someone sees them talking to her and if managers or the Leads start thinking the same about them. I also realized they all were fighting for one goal that was to get promoted. They started developing a kind of competitive strategy towards her. When none talked to her, she got depressed. Initially she tried talking to her friends and sorting out the matter but it didn't work since they were fighting with her. The only way to make her feel bad was to leave her alll alone in such big office. She tried, fought, and then fought again. But failed every time. Nothing was working. People already looked for other alternatives. She was no more in their company of friends..

When you know people are not interested in knowing what you are doing, how you are doing, when they appreciate or depreciate what you do..infact when they stop reacting on any thing it becomes difficult for you to survive. Eventually she lost interest in her work. When her existence was not felt and the presence was not worth and appreciated by a single person in the organisation, she realized its time for her to leave...its time for her to find something new, some where where people respect her and her existence is appreciated. She put her papers. And i was in state of shock. She was someone i thought is gonna be the future manager.

I just had one thought when i got to know this news, that people are strong enough to make you go weak. They can force you to commit suicide, they can take away your identity, your status, your freedom, your life from you. They can make you feel bad about the smallest thing that you ever thought could affected them. Always make your existence felt by people. Or you will not know when you presence is not even felt.

I wish if someone would have told her what people were expecting out of her. What they think should have been changed by her so that she could have come out of that situation. I wish if someone would have just once said ' hey this is what is going wrong. I think you should change this in you and then things will be fine'. But none did that. Because they were only worried about one thing and that is themselves..I feel since we have labour available on cheap rates (especially in India), the HR does not work to hold on the resources and maintain it. Because they know the have thousand of alternatives available to take that place.

P.S: It makes me think, how long am i going to survive.!!!

STOP! STOP!! Please Stop!

Why do you act like this always? Why do you talk like this ? Why do you behave in this manner when someone says you something ? Why are your reactions so proactive ? Why don't you go out on weekends? Why don't you enjoy ? Why do you keep writing? Why did you acted that way the other day ?  Why do you like this color ? Why don't you try this instead of the one you are presently ? Why can't you come on time?  Why you have to give explanations, always ? Why don't you like Chinese food ? Why don't you drink or smoke? Why do you laugh out loud in public ? Why did you talked to her/him like this ? Why can't you just sit quietly ? Please do not talk when i don't want to . Please Walk straight. Please don' talk like this me. Please Please please do as i say.

There are few creatures on this earth, who are always living with a perception that they are the most complete , most eligible and most correct people on this earth. They think if they are not there on this earth, the earth will be like a desert, quiet and calm. They think they are someone who holds the Guinness book of world record for advising and counselling people. Also they think, that they are the best in everything they do; be it cooking, to mixing and cutting vegetable, or in behaving and impressing people, or in carrying themselves in the crowd.Rest are just someone , who are illiterate, sad, and cry babies. Alright! Can people like this please, i literally mean it, please stop giving their advice's on every single thing we do ? We don't need it. It's actually irritating, and brings our confidence down instead of boosting it high. It really makes us feel 'not so worthy' kind of, that we are surely not. It , it kinds of make us feel, as if we are some dumb assholes who are just on this earth for no other reason than listening to someone else.

If we like listening to some STUPID, stupid songs from some old movie, be it 1950's or the 1800 or be it rock and roll(although i don't think we had some music at that time, but still) if we wanna do that, please let us do that. Why do you have to advice on what songs should we listen to? I don;t think there is any compulsion passed by the government that only number 1, number 2 and number 3 can be listened to or there is? Is there? Under some law and some act ? Huh.

okay, i agree we laugh on every small thing that is, may be, in your perspective, not that funny, but let us laugh . Don't just say ' what is there to laugh ? Of-course we find it funny than you do. Not necessarily we creatures laugh on the same thing, in the same way, at the same time, for the same duration. haha..imagine if we all laugh at same pace, in same style. Won't it be antique ?

Why do i love to click pictures? and why do drink a lot of caffeine? Are you really asking me these kind of questions? Common, that i what i love doing. I am a amateur photographer and i love to capture every moment of my life. Also i am fond of clicking my own pictures. We all have something different, and unique, And caffeine, well i love coffee, and ginger tea is my favorite. I am an artistic person, and i am very close to nature. I love having a cup of tea or coffee accompanying me when i am writing, or thinking something, or in the evening while watching my favorite TV show or a movie ( like the high school musicals or some old legendary ).

And how about my anger, and about my proactive nature, and how about the way i talk, and the way i say that i hate these beggars on the road. Yeah that is my thought, the way i am , the way i behave, my personality traits. I never said anyone, (i think until now) to not to behave in certain way just because i don't like it . I respect for what you are, for how you are. I don't want any one to change for me, Unlike people want me to change for them.

Okay, so you want me to be with you always when you want, or when you are not feeling well, or when you are actually feeling low, and want me to talk to you. And when i cry, or say something, you say i am acting weird and why do i always keep crying ? Did i ever say to you that this is your usual thing and you always keep crying, and that you don't know how to act mature or act in an appropriate way ? Then instead of being with me you are advising me to act mature and saying that i don't know to act per my age. Does age really matters or reduces the pain? If yes, the old people won't need anyone at all, and the Young gen will never be heart broken. Soo please don;t advice. Just be with us if you can.

If i say something, is that it ? Can't that be altered ? Can't that be modified ? It can right.  So if i say lets meet this weekend , or if i say i don;t have time, or if i say i can't see you tonight as promised, you stopped talking to me . And then you say i am changing the plans. Ofcourse things change all of a sudden. You have popping corn always in your life. And you continue your advice saying i should understand the other person's feeling . How about my feelings ? Did i say why can't you understand me.

 Guys, all the above incidences i am sure must have been occurred in your life as well. What i am trying to say is, Advice given is good but overdose of it actually spoils the relationship. It makes the person dead from inside. The person whom you are advising continuously, may eat his confidence, and leave him like a dried leaf.  He may stop thinking, get irritated on small things, and blame god for sending him on this beautiful earth. We all have to understand that every person is different, unique and incredible in its own sense. If you like blue not necessarily the other person would like that. If you love ice cream, the other person my like coffee. If you laugh practically, may be the other person laughs just like that . Please do not try to control somebody's emotions in your hand. Nothing can be a better cage than that .

P.S : I know advice is for free, but please just for the reason don't distribute it. Something for free is not valued until asked for.

Please please stop it. We don't need it actually( The advice).



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T-R-U-S-T - - - - - - -The odd man out!

How strange life is, how strange people are, and how odd man out the word 'Trust' is.

'Trust'! what does it actually means ? Does it mean a person does not hurt you? Does it mean a person does not betray you? Does it mean a person fulfills his promise? Does it mean a person be with you forever and forever? Does it mean a person always be with you in need and deed? Does it mean a person should stick on to the words that he blabbered a days back or years back? Does it mean a person should not break your heart?   Well well well, hold on are these all expectations ? It depends again. We usually try connecting Trust and Expectations and collaborating it. Both means different. Let me clear it out as per my experience and understanding.

Trust is when somebody promised you that he will be with you forever, or will help you in completing some task. That is something the other person promised himself and you did not ask for it. It was his will to do that for you because may be he loves you, or he thinks you are a friend worth it, and he cares for you because he likes you.

Expectation is when you expect something out of others without they promising it to you. When you expect someone to stand by you even they never said that they will , or when you expect that the other person loves you or care for you without that person telling it out to you.

Trust breaks when someone does not do what he has promised to you, and expectations break when someone does not do that he did not promised and your heart expected. What hurts more? Trust or Expectation ? Well i think both. Trust hurts because the other person tried to build that trust in you for him, and when you did trust him, he couldn't stand up-to that. Expectations hurt a little less than trust because at-least it was one sided and at the end it was your fault to expect something out of someone.

At the end the question comes should we never trust someone? Well...there is no answer left for that question. Because trust is something you get to know after betrayal. When someone breaks your trust you actually get to know the real meaning of it. And so we say..experience teach you well.

And believe me you are gonna experience the same thing again and again in life but with a different learning, with a different thought process and with a different result. Also believe me each experience teaches you a new lesson.At times some situation is difficult to control than the other one, but believe me one more time that god had made each one of us soo strong, that surely we can manage ourselves if not others.

P.S : Well something happened that made me to write this post. What is it? I am surely gonna write it the next time. Till then See ya! and Happy blogging to my fellow bloggers!

I have different minds! We all have. The popping Corn!

Sitting on the first bench, in the training, after the heavy lunch, it was getting difficult for me to concentrate on what the presenter was trying to say. And the deserts added on to it. I was feeling drowsy , and sleepy. Eyes were closing down without my knowledge, they were saying me please get home soon. I need to sleep. I was trying opening them. Looking at the floor for a second to give some relaxation to my eyes. I felt as if i have been tortured to keep my eyes open for an unending time. Heard the sentence ' partnerships, limited liabilities, general partners and joint ventures’. Both my hands gave support to my face, yeah I needed that support and looked at the instructor, my eyes rolled on to him, he was moving all over the room trying to make us understand the flow through concepts. He was from United States, Michigan. His name was Patrick Fitzgerald. We call him Pat. He had two kids, oh sorry three. He bought few candies for us from the states and we were waiting for them to open post lunch. When we entered the class post lunch, all the three packets were emptied and he was really, i mean 'Really' disappointed to see such act done by a professional employee in such an organization. I felt bad as i could not collect even one. But this act just made me think, why do people break the trust and act indecent in such great atmosphere?!?!? We tried to put our eyes on few of the people who were already there in the room before us. But none of them accepted that they are the culprit, of course they won't. A person if steals something, never accepts that he did that. Alright forget about that.

So...while in the training, my mind was getting distracted and it was going all ways thinking few things. Like a rainbow it was changing colors. How at one point of time i was thinking about the apartment that i have to look for in the evening, how the broker was calling me and i was trying to cut the call, how i was thinking about the past; the present, the future, looking at the slides going on, the blue and green color of the boxes. Oh Gosh, we have different minds.

Different minds, different people, at the same time. We all think approximately 10 things at the same time, in fact more than that. We try to concentrate on one single thing, focus our mind, but still, our mind works in different ways. Your one part, say. Concentrate! The other one says ' Break' the third part says ' I am hungry, feed me something’. 'Oh i am sleepy' the fourth part says. Next say, 'oh when am i gonna fall in love', the next thinks..'Oh i didn't talk to my friend who called me yesterday'. And then we are thinking ' hmm. my friends marriage.. How am i gonna go? I have lots of work'. Thinking how to say that i won't be able to come. oh Wow, I am gonna get the appraisal this year. How much will be my hike. And then the guy who is behind you (or a girl who is behind you if you are a guy, or if you have some other preferences, i don't mind that too). And then it says ' my gosh, what are they trying to teach us? We already know this'. I went back to the bad times i have gone through, and then the very moment i also thanked god for taking me out of those times. My mind at the same time was listening to what Pat was saying and i was answering to make him sure that 'oh yeah, don't worry, we are listening' although we were not. So ultimately what i wanna say is even though we think that we are focused on a work, or our mind is at one place, its never like this. We are always diverted with different thoughts at the same time.

Since we are human, our mind tends to work in a different way and in different directions at the same time. And when we think too much, our mind needs rest. Infact more rest than expected. When we say we are matured, that means we have control over our senses. Our mind is built enough to handle ten different thoughts at a time. That is one of the reasons i love being grown up and matured because then i can act..

Concentrating on the class again, i looked on to the PPT that was going on. I realized i was not at all in there the room, for an hour or so. I was in my world of thoughts.

I looked at the clock, it was still 03 45 in the heavy afternoon. The class was quiet, people were in their own world of thoughts, and were successful in giving the look to the instructor Pat that 'hey, oh ya we are listening. Moving their heads up and then down gradually on everything he said, as a sign of focusing and making him feel welcome'. I got myself back to the class, and Pat concluded the topic Partnerships.  And added 'Alright so we have a fifteen minutes break' . And we all were awake suddenly. I felt as if somebody just said a dialogue ' Go, go free yourself. Go, live again, Go get some life dude'. Well what he actually said was, go stretch yourself , have some air and come back quickly. With the thought in my mind of coming back, we went out of the training room. I realized it then, that today was my first day of training; i have 4 more days to go. So, i have four more days to think about myself. Think about all what i could not do  when i was busy working. As one of my friend said, while having lunch provided by the company as a complimentary for the trainees, that 'This is the time, to heal you'. Well, thats what i am gonna do.

Happy blogging till then!

P.S.: Pat did bought the candies again the very next day of our training, and distributed to all of us. I really felt bad for what happened in the class (Stealing of candies) uf..Kidding me. BTW I ate Mars and the Hershey’s :)


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AdDiCtion DefiNed! and REfined. - Blog, Blog Blogging Blogging!

ah, i got up from my sleep, it was dark, i could see the laptop light blinking. It gave me a kind of satisfaction. 'Yes, the charger is plugged in' i talked to myself. hm. okay let me just check the e mail, and the FB, and if i have few more visitors to my blog, or if somebody commented. F5, F5, F5, ...i did that hundred times, before i got back to sleep again. It took an hours time from my sleep. Morning, before leaving for office and having the sip of coffee , rechecking the e mails, and F5, F5, F5 . i had few more followers, and page views on my blog. I smiled by myself and said ' I am becoming famous':P. It gave me a kind of relaxation that atleast people are visiting.
Office: Google chrome was started as the first thing, since i have all the passwords saved, just signed in to all my accounts, and rechecked the e mails, the FB notifications, the updates, the Blog. By that time, my friend came and commented ' Bus...always Facebook and blog. Do one thing stop working and just keep on writing the blog officially'. LOL i said. Yes, this is a new habit i have got from one of my Bestieeee. So instead of making efforts to laugh out loud actually, i just use a lingo LOL to show my happiness on any damn thing in the world. Lol is actually cute when you say it. It sounds like Lol.Try saying it with me, Lol, Lol. haha.

On the way to breakout, we discussed about the changes that FB made, and how people write shit about anything on their blog( including me) etc. etc. oh, with that i remember a story. While preparing coffee for myself, talking to my friend whom i accompanied for the short, quick break, I saw lighting on the opposite side office of our building. Well that company was Dell and we wondered why is it decorated. Is it because dell is gonna get married to Oracle (the other office adjacent to ours),I said. After i repeated to what i said, that is Dell gonna get married to Oracle ? My friend added on to it while mixing her tea, 'Yes : Merger &Acquisition'. Haha , it made me laugh. Yeah that's true. WOW! what a topic to write my next blog. 'Mergers and Acquisitions - Marriage between the two companies '. Nice topic right? I asked my colleague come friend. And started explaining her how am i gonna start the write up, giving all feel and exclamations. She said ' I think you have read a lot of Chetan bhagat, that's how i get the feeling' . I said ya.. i mean not exactly and tried to cut the topic, so that she should not start thinking i am a fool. We moved to our respective workstations to finish the never ending work but that topic was still going in my mind. On my desk, i opened the Blog, and the 'New Post'. Saved the title as a draft so that i don't forget.

Thats how it happen always. In fact we bloggers are a kind of weird. We try to find out the topic in whatever we talk, we think always..mind me always..because we have this gut feeling that we can get the Amazing thought at any point of time, be it eating, working, in the washroom, or brushing our teeth. Well, yeah that can be a topic as well. We are reallllyyyy realllyyy weird! and so we blog.

Few characteristics of a blogger or a blog Addict can be :

They never stop thinking, they always have a new post tab on their hand, they will always judge things, argue, and will disagree because that is what they are known for: Their own views and opinions. They love to write shit, they are addicted to  see how many page views they have, and from where all the visitors visited their blog, they love the F5 Key as it tells them where they stand, they are both qualitative and quantitative, they are someone who have their own identity, who knows what they feel about something, they have their opinion on everything and that is what matters (i think).

If someone comments on their blog, they reach to the highest level of happiness and give them the feeling of accomplishment. If someone adds them to the network, they are proud, and if someone follows them on their blog, without their emotional drama and torture, they start to improve themselves as a blogger because now people are following them!:P

Most importantly, they will have more number of drafts than their actual write ups (atleast i do). Some are finished, but i think not worth it, some are the titles, some are half done articles, and some are just there,for no reason, just in hope to get published one day!! Also we are addicted to blogging, and we just can't stay without the internet even a single day, it can kill us, atleast will make us go weak. We are always active when we are blogging, writing or thinking, other things makes us lazy especially household chores or something that our parents asks us to do. We always believe in ourselves no matter what happens.

So just accept that bloggers are blogging all the time, even in their dreams, because what they dream is, all about Blogging!! Blogger are a different creature all together! and believe me we are. LOL. :P

P.S : Logout is actually the damn hardest button to click! Phew. BTW, Let's play Blog blog blogging blogging. 

So you think, you can't write?

I wonder, is it only me who think, that whatever i write is all bulls shit, crap, and just disgusting with no meaning. Is it only me, who think, that people are not at all interested in reading my blog? or any post , or any article i write? Is it only me, who feels, the articles  are just words and nothing more? Is it only me, who when read others article, or visit someone's blog, wonder, " OMG, the blog looks awesome, and see the number of posts, the followers, comparing with mine? Asking the question, why don't i have these many followers, ? what is soooo special in this bloody picture that it has promoted by 500 odd people? I mean common, my posts are better, faaarrrrrrrrr better than this person's? okay, enough of bitching i guess.. Oh no, not yet i have some more points to point out to the bloggers. Has it happen to others( ofcourse including me), that okay, i think i am not at all fit for this blogging and all, I should better focus on the one liner's on the FB and or Twitter( The tweet bird) P.S.: well i really find the bird really really cute. P.P.S : i know post script has to be used at the end. But thats okay, It's my post and i can write it the way i want.

okay, back to the topic. you know this is the worst habit in my, i wanna write on something, and my mind will have thousand thoughts running, that distracts the flow. ugh! i have to improve! okay, so,  I know many of us think , that we can't write and that, we should stop irritating people by our posts, and we should keep our thoughts to ourselves as you don't get the likes expected. Right? Are you also the one who comes under the category of " So you think, you can't write?" Well if yes, here are few tips and tricks to be followed when you are writing, or when you get through this thought.

1. Think of something original. Well when i say original, means, don;t peep into others blog( well, this gonna be my second point, but never mind if i mentioned it in the first one), and try to connect it to your post. you see love on some blog, and try to write on that, you see some invention and decide, oh yes, even i can write on invention. yeah! No, not all all. Don't do that ever.The main purpose of blogging is to share your thoughts, remember YOUR, its you what people want to know. It's what you think matters here, and not what others like, or on what topic i will get the most likes. A blog shows your personality, and so it should show your emotions, be it happy or sad, be it good or bad, be it wierd, or old, or new or religious or whatever. Remember again, originality of thoughts, originality of you, that is what makes you perfect. and that is what the first Criteria to become a blogger.

I would say : Be original, be the best! is the first main point you have to keep it mind.

2. As i already mentioned it in the first point : DO NOT peep into other blog's ,pages, and articles. Mind me, reading and peeping are two different things. I am talking about the later one. Do not peep. Again i will say, exploring is different than peeping. You can surely have a look, at the articles, the followers, the positives, the negatives, the Template used. But don't start replicating the things, thinking " Wowww, the template is awesome, let me change mine. Nope, never. See, appreciate, and move on. Come back to your page. So i would say:

Do not peep, just explore and appreciate.

3. No, not at all. I don't believe you do that.. Just don't judge your posts or an article by the number of likes, or comments, or How many of them promoted your post on Indiblogger( Well, that is what even i do). But that's a big NO, NO . why? well i have a reason. Likes have a logic and so do comments. Although people might be reading your blog, and your articles, but may not be 'liking' or 'commenting' as they are lazy to do so. or may be people are reading, but think, " oh common, how does it matters to him/her if i like. He anyways writes good, and i am sure he must be aware of it( I know wrong perception, can't help it). or the most important point, they must be thinking( I am sure many do) that what if he gets more likes, comments, or followers? what if he gets more popular on Indiblogger or on FB? What if people stop promoting my blog? and last but not the least, few thinks, "oh common, what am i even getting promoting somebody's post. Forget it. I am getting my share and i am happy." So imagine, if you think you can't write and people don't like your post, there are plenty of reasons for that.

So a BIG NoNo to deciding your capability on the basis of likes, and the promotion!

4. Short and sweetu : Well yes, this is something you can do surely. Remember you are writing a blog, and a blog is something quick. Where reader's wanna have a quick look at your article, and read it real quick, and just get that punch in a mile second. So try not to write 5000 words article where people can't complete it, and leave it half read. Always remember, its not the quantity, its the quality.

So, it should be short and sweet for sure!

5. I mentioned in point 4, about the punch in the article, where the reader is forced to get in the actual reading because something excites him. Well what can be that something? That something can be, most importantly, A UNIQUE Title!!! Yes, the title. it should be something that makes the reader click on your post, and atleast help him to get started read the blog. Always try that title keeps the suspense of the main content.

SO the Title should be Tiled awesomely!

and finally last, but not the least, on the list is :

6. Go back to point one, and read it again. Don't forget....

Be original, be the best.

Just Into It!!!!!!

I reached home; it was around 12:45 A.M in the morning. I felt as if my mobile was ringing. I looked at my mobile, there was one unread message from my friend and 5 missed calls, from my parents and friends. Well my parents keeps calling me until and unless I respond to them at least once, whether it’s night 1:oo A.M. or3 :oo A.M. I have to give them a call once I am home safely. I couldn’t reply to all the calls but read the message. One of my friends asked me to read the poem that he recently wrote and wanted to post it on his blog. Asked me to read it, I guess this was the thousandth time that he was asking me to do that. Because of work I was trying to postpone it. But he used to message me everyday asking “Did you read it”? Did you read it??? And it went on for days. I thought okay let me just see what blunder he did this time.

It was a tiring day at office (as usual) but still opened the laptop, plugged in the data card and opened the mail box to check his poem. Huh!! I thought why I am even reading it at this time, when I actually need sleep, my mind is not working and when after working like for 12 hours. I was cursing him again and again while reading it. Half of the words I could not understand and half I didn't want to, as I was forcing myself. I just did not know what to do. By that time I received a message again" Did you read it??  And then I was like give me a break, I am doing it, stop messaging me every now and then, stop pinging me please..Please, I beg you! But still could not say this to him; I went through it again (no option left), trying to concentrate. I really felt a bit bad about him, that he trusting me and waiting for my response and I am like an Insane not responding to him. Then I realized I should respect his trust and read it carefully.  

I started reading it from beginning, line by line; word by word, and you won't believe, I was actually getting into that and finding out the blocks. I got up, took out my diary, switched on the light, searched for a pen (I usually don’t have any) but luckily I did found! Started noting down the developmental areas and things or words that I think could have been better if written in some other way. I read line by line and was able to find out the stumbling blocks. I was getting reminded of our reviewers (well my Seniors and Managers who review our work) at that time that how much concentration the reviewing of return needs. You have to start line by line of the returns and find out the improvements in that, so that it should be delivered to the client the way they expect. You have to think from that other person’s perspective, so that you can give him what he wanted.  

I was able to give him (my friend) the constructive feedback for his writing and he actually thanked me for that. He said "Amrita, no one was able to figure out so many improvements but you have actually pointed out things that can be changed and bring out my emotions well, Thank you”. And he asked me from where did I learn to give such nice feedback? I did not have any answer at that point of time. I was amazed myself that whoa!! Did I really do that?  Did I actually make him feel good about the things? Did I give him ways to write it better? Did I? Okay, but I were happy for what I did and realized it’s time for to sleep (3:OOA.M.) I switched off the light, Kept my laptop aside; was trying to sleep, I realized it’s the place where I work in has given me this ability to review things minutely.

It’s the place where I work in, has given me this patience to read and go through the things thoroughly.

It’s the place where I work in that taught me how important is to manage the trust of your client. My friend was my client at that point of time and I did delivered the best.

It’s the place where I work in that made me realize “Hard work pays you off”.

It’s the place where I work in that makes me feel we all need a team effort to makes things perfect.

And last but not least it’s the place where I work in thought me what does the word Commitment Means. How important in life work is. If you don’t find any progression at your work place then it’s not sense to work.

In words of Confucius "Choose a job you love and you will never have to work a day of your life”. And I feel the same. I actually don’t feel that I am working. It’s like my fun place for me where I experience with my learning’s. Its place where I enjoy being. Its place where I share my living with my colleague, with my people, most importantly with my Job! It’s not a part of my life but life's part! And I am Proud to be where I am!

Amrita

July 31, 2011 (IST).