S.E.T ME FREE! Please. I am tired. When I say tired I mean
it. I was told life is a beautiful place and we need to live it to the fullest.
Yes! Then why is it that people force you to do things that you don’t want to.
Why is it that you have to think about Society before taking any decision that
makes you happy? Why can’t you just be the way you are and act the way you
want. Why is it that you always have to act as per others and when you don’t
you disappoint them? Why is it that when you are quiet people question you, and
when you talk too much they think there is something wrong?
I have seen in India or in Indian culture - There is one
thing that is not right, and that’s societal pressure. Infact from the time we
all are born we are asked to behave in a certain way, act in a certain way,
talk in a certain way, and react in a certain way. Why? I mean why do you want
the child to learn the following way and follow the same through his or her
life? Why can’t you just let him learn his way? Why?
When we are born, we really don’t know anything about this
world. We don’t know who we are. We just know how to play, and have fun. We
don’t know how this world (Or I should say ‘India’ differs between a girl and a
guy).We don’t know how to react but slowly we are being forced to learn these
things and follow. We are being said“ Don’t do this, Don’t do that, Don’t talk
like this, Don’t talk like that, You need to respect elders, you need to touch
elders feet, you need to talk like this to a girl, and like this to a guy,
these are the things that you don’t need to say, you don’t need to talk bad”… A
guy is being asked to stay away from a girl and a girl is kept away from guy.
When a girl is mature enough to understand things and when a guy knows what he
is supposed to do they try to come closer and that is as well not accepted by
OUR society. One day, a girl is asked to
get married to unknown person and sleep with him. But a girl is not allowed to
get married to a person whom she loves. I don’t understand why FEW INDIANS are
still living with this mentality.
These things develop a mindset and that is “Okay, so I need
to act as per what I am being told and if I act the other way I will be wrong”.
We don’t try to tell the reason but just ask the kid to behave in a certain
way. That way we start ‘ACTING’, and our real self is hidden somewhere deep
down inside. We are afraid to bring that REAL SELF in front of people thinking
that will not be liked by the societal norms.
So, if a girl laughs too much she is considered exposed and
not that respectful. If a girl talks loud she is very LOUD and powerful; the
family does not like it. When a guy comes to see a girl the basic thing that is
expected out of a girl is: Does she know HOW TO COOK, does she know how to keep
the house clean, does she know how to raise kids, and is she soft spoken? Is
she fair? Will she able to produce kids? Is she ready to sacrifice her career
if asked to? Is she ready to give birth to a kid when the Mother in law is in
needs of a kid?
Is that really a good thing? Expecting sooo much out of a
person, is that right? We are born as humans and are expected to do certain
things in life, but is it necessary to FOLLOW THE SAME PATTERN that “WE are
asked to”? Why can’t we live life as per out own conditions and wish? Why is it
that if a girl or a guy does not want to get married is still questioned at? Why is it that society still thinks that if a
girl is not getting married than surely the fault is hers? Why is it that if a
girl or a guy needs space then surely something is wrong? Why it is that still
few Indians are that sick to think that a girl is a lesbian or a guy is a gay
is he/she does not have a girlfriend or a boyfriend? Why is it that it is
assumed that if a girl gets a little old like 28 then it’s difficult to get a
good guy for marriage?
What is wrong with our society? There is surely something
very wrong that we need to correct or else we will lose our real self. In fact
we have lost the most of it. We are not happy in real sense because the
definition of freedom is something that we still need to learn. Why don’t we
just stop lying to each other and start living on truth.
We are educated but why is it that we still act like illiterates?
People who are so called M.B.A’s or have studied engineering act like they are
just illiterates and don’t know anything. They will show that they are
modernized and very modern but when it comes to following it they will back out.
If someone is open they will back bite and make fun. If someone is laughing his
heart out, they will feel ashamed because the person laughs too much or talks
very loud.
When will we actually grow and educate ourselves? When will
we stop having double standards and actually modernize ourselves with thoughts
and bring it in action?
I surely realize that EDUCATION does not educate a person,
but a mind and heart that is open for things is what I will call a real
education.
Please set us free! Stop judging, stop commenting, and stop
reacting! JUST LIVE!
I am sorry but you need to SET ME (PEOPLE) FREE TO LET ME
LIVE TO THE FULLEST!
