BAHUBALI - The Conclusion REVIEW

If you want to know what actually is cinematography, story telling what is picturisation, what is proper direction and most importantly what is proper execution then Bahubali 2 is something that you need to watch out, right now! The way story has build up is something i have not seen in past decade. Am I exaggerating? No, not at all, you need to go watch it and then realize every word that I wrote here is true.

The story could have fallen apart if there was no proper direction and execution. But each character just molded themselves in a such beautiful way that it all just seemed to be real. Not one moment where you would feel that the scene was unwanted or has been just filmed to fill in the gap. Each dialogue were powerful, and each character had a role to play. Not even one character in the movie was baseless.

There were moments where people stood up including myself - and clapped for the perfect experience, the clapping was more of the experience that we all could get by watching such amazing deliver by amazing actors under amazing direction! There were scenes that gave goose bumps - not once but certain times! The audience was bahubalied when came out of the theater! I will watch it again, and you need to watch it too if you love watching good cinema and pay tribute to amazing cinema by watching it in theater and paying them regards that they deserve in terms of box office collection!

Was it too much to ask for?

Was it too much to ask for? From the time she was a small kid, she had dreams of fairy tale. Dreams that doesn't take much to fulfill. She wanted a good life. She wanted education that could help her become independent, she wanted a job where she can be herself, she wanted the best for her family. Her dreams were to travel the world and make memories that she can cherish when she is about to leave this world.

Out of all her dreams, the smallest was that she wanted a person who can love her more than anything else. She wanted someone who can fight with the world for her and with her. She wanted someone who would get hurt if she is hurt, and who wouldn't want to live life if she is dead. She wanted that love where the better half makes her feel complete. She wanted that love where the person feels pain if she wasn't in her life anymore like she would feel if that person is not there in her life. Was it too much to ask for?

She wanted a fairy tale destination wedding near the beaches with the person whom she loves the most, and she wanted to capture the perfect moments with beautiful memories, She dreamed of having wadali brothers and flute played in her wedding and she wanted her favorite food and the best mehendi dance ever! She wanted her favorite designers lehenga in floral print and pastel color with pink flowers on it with the net shimmery dupatta. Was it too much to ask for?

LIVING IN INDIA - STOP DISCUSSING

From last two posts about my opinion on Meter auto and extra tax I have learned (the you can ready on Facebook). . If you want to spend peaceful and happy life in India then. . .

Do not post anything related to politics. Few people will never agree.

When they don't agree they will make you feel wrong.

They will take the conversation to such place that you will bang your head and just repent that why did you post something on social media.

They will keep arguing - without understanding that yours and theirs opinion is different and if I am writing something then that is my opinion. They are free to write anything on their wall.

They will drag you to a level where you feel you are a fool . .

Now this is new - They will call you show off and trying to gain popularity.

They will do personal comments like - calling you immature, did not expect coming from you, keep your frustration with yourself. .and such. (As if I have asked for something they have never heard of, as if i am the first person to talk on such sensitive topics)

They will say you are losing followers. . people are talking negative about you. .I mean really? Is people's character so loose these days? That by my one post they will just flip their perception towards me. May be. .

They will say you don't have anyone. (OH GOD! such big statement). .

And at the end - Nothing will change!!

Now I know why many people run away from India. . They cannot take this drama. It is stressful and so they decide to just live their life leaving everything behind because they know nothing is going to change. It's India. . Live your life. . enjoy your life. . You come first. . leave everything else. . :D

THE POSITIVES. . .

One evening, I was thinking.. people, as in “We” usually talk about negatives and tend to talk about those things/events that made us feel miserable in life.  We tend to talk about things that hurt or did hurt us in the past us or things that people did not do rather than things that people did for us. Why is it like this? If you observe a child he will be more happier than sad because he forgets things easily that made him cry. . . When we grow we start remembering things, mostly the ones that changed us in a way. . that made us more strong. The experiences that turned our life upside down are there stored in the memory and we talk about those experiences more often than we talk about good memories or experiences.

There is one friend of mine. He has been such a positive influence in my life that after I started looking at his life it made me feel positive about my own life. He is the person who is always happy *touchwood”. Now when I say he is happy that does not mean everything is perfect in his life, but the way he takes life with such positiveness that it gives me a reason to smile everyday. I remember when he was going through such tough time in his life but he did not give up on that smile on his face. He still talk positive things, his passion, dreams and was still passionate about achieving them even though the time was difficult! He is the person who has never talked negative about anyone or anything. He is just so focused on being happy that he just does not have time to look at the negative things. When I look at him I wonder there are good people in this life who still exists!

That person taught me how to be happy for no reason. He taught me happiness is not situational , but it comes from within.

With this positive thought I want to leave you guys with your positiveness! It’s with you and within you. . .

ROUGH DRAFT- A moment of love...

 Chapter 1

THE WEDDING BELLS

She slept there in silence and tried opening her eyes with great efforts. It was eight in the morning. She felt a little lazy, wanting not to get up. She stared at the window for few seconds. It was hazy and foggy. She got up tying her hair with a clutch and opened the drawer that was placed on the right side of the bed. After few seconds, she was holding a card – ‘Her Wedding card’. In excitement while reading the card she moved her butts and danced on the tune of love. The BIG day was almost here. Thinking about the life she would live after her wedding, she moved towards the bed and started setting it up. She was nervous and excited, both, at the same time. She was already waiting for this day! After she was done with her morning thoughts, she took the card again in her hands, dreaming again. She has always thought that wedding is not her cup of tea, but after meeting Karan she went through a transformation. She changed herself just to be with him. Few minutes passed by there were a knock at the door. She got up to get that.

Aisha, it’s you? She jumped off the floor, and stared at her for few minutes. That surprise made her day.

Yes, yes it’s me! Aisha replied. ‘Will you allow me in'?, she teased.

‘Oh come on in Aisha’ she exclaimed with joy. Finally you are here! I missed you so much.

I missed you too love. I missed you so much.

They both giggled and did their patent hand shake or more appropriate hand hug. Grabbing each other’s hand and hugging each other tight. They have spent their best days together back in the college.

‘Come on, sit’ she said. How was your travel? Hope you had no issues? The taxi driver knew the house, right or you had to guide him? I was really worried. You should have told me that you were coming I would have asked father to send a car to pick you up at the airport. I thought of calling you but…I got busy…and…you know… I will ask Raghu to send you some tea-coffee and yes get ready soon we need to grab breakfast and head to the parlour. 

Hey, relax! I am absolutely fine and as you can see, I am safe, and sitting in front of you. So please, now go and have a shower. You stink!

‘What?’

‘Yes, you stink!

‘I am going to kill you right here’ and believe me you are dead Aisha and she ran behind her.

Aisha ran ahead and she tried to catch hold of her. Aisha teased her saying ‘you can’t catch me’. And she replied saying ‘I will’.

‘Catch me if you can’ Aisha said.

You stinker I will catch you and chop you into small pieces. And will fry it and eat it for my dinner. She still ran behind her.

After few minutes both of them were breathless. They saw each other and hugged again. This time tight!

Oh I missed you Aisha!

Do I need to say I missed you too?

You idiot!  You need to say it.

You idiot!

…….

*   *   *

10:30 AM.  They already kept their ass on the dining table. ‘Damn hungry’ Aisha said. She asked Raghu what’s there for breakfast. He replied in the typical tone:

‘Madam Tea is ready. We have Parathas and butter, butter milk and homemade stuffs.’

‘OMG, I can’t eat this’ she thought.

Do you have cornflakes?

Yes Madam, we have that. Should I bring it for you?

Yes please!

Madam, should I include milk and clotted cream in it?

NO! Only milk and no clotted cream, Raghu.

Okay Madam. I will be right back. He said and rushed towards the kitchen.

Aisha was working as a Brand Manager in one of the Multinational Company. She was tall, Not that fair, sharp features, nose a little longer than usual but straight and inclined exactly to her jawline. Her eyebrows were a little upward and eyes were big. Not that long, but quite long hair. She coloured her hair and so they were a little brownish compared to her natural black hair. She was a little modernised for Indian culture. She mostly wore short dresses and one piece. A girl, who was worth dying for, and she was hot!

She stayed in Mumbai and basically belonged to Nagpur. Aisha Chauhan was her full name. She always stressed on the word Chauhan when someone does not call it correct. She used to get irritated and felt like hitting hard when someone called her with wrong name.

It’s Aisha Chauhan and not chohan!

It’s CHOUHAN, making it clearer. Aisha’s father was in Indian Army and her mom was a house wife. Her mom has taken complete care of her and her brother. She moved out of her house for higher studies and things change from then. 

THE REAL YOU

After one complete year I have picked up blog writing. Last year January was the last time I wrote about things I wanted to do in 2014. Well most of it I could not but few of them I did. I am not sure what made me stopped writing, but I think I have become more conscious of what people will say about what I write.

Is it not a very common thing that we all go through? That what will people say about us. What will they think if I do this or if I do that?  I somewhere feel that after we reach a certain age we need to be very considerate of what we do, how we react, with whom we talk and in what way, how we do things, what career choices we make, how we live our personal life etc. etc. There is a set way to behave . . . or I should say a set way to live life which at a certain point is acceptable but I feel it as well brings down few people’s originality.

From childhood we know what we are expected to do and at what age. If things do not go that way then there is something wrong with you or your life. And if you follow a step by step process of living life then you are on a right track. I will never be able to understand this concept of living life but that’s okay. Not everything in this life needs explanation.

Tell me one thing can you really live life as a step by step process? No right! Life is uncertain and it comes with uncertain turns, uncertain years, uncertain dreams, uncertain friends, uncertain moments and uncertain everything. Then how can people expect that everybody’s life should be the same? That is the most unrealistic thing in the world. Not everyone‘s life is similar. Though it looks like but it is not. Not everyone earns the same, not everyone live the same, not everyone dreams the same way, and not everyone’s passion is at equal level. So, in short I want to say that there is no comparison between any one at all.  There is nothing like ‘he is more successful than him’ or ‘he is happier than him’ or ‘he has achieved more than him’. There is no comparison at all. May be the person who achieved less is more happy than the person who achieved more? May be a person is satisfied with what he have and the other one is never satisfied?

At the end the only thing that matter is how much you lived life as the way “you wanted to” and not “how others wanted you to”. That is what life is. . .  Memories are all we take and to build those memories you need to live life your way. It applies to me as well. I need to do what I want to but somewhere I am not. I am not living the life the way I want to. I feel I have lost my real self somewhere in this world. Somewhere with the way people think, somewhere I have started to act which I don’t want to.

But somewhere I know I am there . . . and somewhere we all have lost our real self that only we can find!

P.S: I am writing after one year so is there are any editing mistakes, wrong usage of grammar then ignore. Do comment!

Inspiration, Happiness and Success.

I was thinking today, infact this thought comes to my mind very often that why are we not satisfied with our life? I mean I can’t generalize but I can say most of us are not happy with where we are and what we are.  Most of the people try to be happy and satisfied by external factors and internally they have a sense of dissatisfaction. I gave it a deeper thought and realized we always want more. . . I mean more and more. When someone wants to achieve so much it’s because he is not satisfied with his present state or looking at others he feel small and so strive for better. May be few people are very passionate about doing something but they surely demand “Importance and appreciation” in return.

Let us understand it a little better. Let us talk about someone who wants to be famous, and who wants to be on the top; someone who is really passionate and works really hard to beat others. Now, when he works hard, and strives for success - what does he actually want in return? Is it just the success? If yes then how will he be successful?  So, let’s say he was able to do what he wanted to do in life but still he is not happy.

Can anyone guess why?

Here is the thought process that goes along with success.

Success has different meaning and dimension to different people. For some success is as simple as earning two times bread and meal, having a family, kids, and a routine life. These are the people who believe success is raising kids and taking care of them. These are the people who think about family first and then about others. For them it does not matter that how much Anil Ambani or Angelina Jolie is earning but for them what is important is what is that their kids want and how to complete their kids’ education in a good college.

Now let’s talk about other kind of people – The one who always wants to be successful but their definition of success is completely different from what I have mentioned above.

When they say they want to be successful, then for them life is beyond wedding, wife/husband, kids and their family.  For them success is comparing with others and be on the top notch. For them success is “Appreciation” and “Importance”. Also for them success is huge fan following and people telling them that they are a role model. If they do not get all this then they consider themselves “Not so successful compared to others”. So if you don’t appreciate them, or they don’t get importance they will probably do something else that helps them to achieve that.  

What is the basis difference between two kinds of people?

The first kinds are Internal driven, and does not depend on others to call themselves successful.

While the second kind of people are the one who are externally driven. They need a lot of praise from others to consider that they are actually successful.  

With this post I just wanted to tell one thing – Your Life is your life. If someone considers you a failure then you are not at all answerable to them. You decide your priority and you decide what success means to you.

Talking about inspiration we all have different inspirations in life that motivates us to do things and follow our dream. Not necessarily that your inspiration should be actor, or a writer or a famous business person but inspiration can be anyone who just motivates you to do things in life – things can be as small as cooking or as big as becoming an actor.

Inspiration can be anyone – even a factory worker can be your inspiration who teaches you that hard work is important in life. A house wife can be your inspiration who teaches you to sacrifice and becoming a mother leaving her aspirations aside. A not so successful person (unsuccessful in your yes) can be your inspiration if he is happy for what he is.

If you are happy in what you have, no matter how small it is, then no one is more successful than you. And if you are not happy even after you have so much then no one is unhappy than you. Leave aside this show off where people show their cricket match passes, or restaurants pics, or their new watch. Believe me we all do the same things what others are doing, just that for some appreciation is needed at every step to grow while others are just self-motivated. The more you be on the self-side the more happy and composed you are. 

So I would conclude this with few things:

1.       You define what you are.

2.       You define your aspirations and dreams.

3.       You define what you want to achieve in life.

4.       You define your success.

5.       You define your happiness.

6.       Last but not the least – you define your LIFE.

You know who you are, so stop pretending it to others who don’t know who you are! 

Posting a letter - Someday, someday.

HAPPY NEW YEAR 2014. It’s 2014 and this is my first article for this year (First, hoping not the last). I have been writing this article from few weeks now and still writing after three weeks of drafts. It’s 12:25 AM and Arvind Kejriwal is the new chief minister for 6 months atleast after winning the Trust votes from congress.  Few say it’s a good decision and few say that he couldn’t stand on his words. Yes, Kejriwal said that he won’t take support from either congress or BJP and would stand in opposition if needed. What I feel will be included in the next article that I am writing specifically on Arvind Kejriwal and his decision.

So it’s 2014, and till now I don’t feel anything different except the fact that I am year older, and close to oldness. Also, I feel the date is different and rest everything is the same. I feel one year actually passed quickly. I wanted this year to get over soon, so that I can enter in 2014, but this year got over pretty quickly. I think the reason time is passing so quickly is because of the things we are engaged in. In older times, there was no internet, no laptop, no latest equipment’s or IPad. So when they didn’t had all the referred things, people used to get more time with themselves and talking to people around them. The few things that they had to do were go for work, come back, listen to radio or watch T.V. when it was there, have food and then go for walk, or chat.

Another interesting thing that used to happen at that time was writing letters and posting them to relatives. These days there is no time to write letter or post them as people just ping and talk or chat for a while. I think that I will write atleast 2 letters a month and will post it to my close friends or mom, or relatives to get in touch with them instead of phone or internet.  But with the kind of lifestyle that we are in, it gets difficult to get out of the comfort zone and do such things. I told my mother last time when I visited her that I will write a letter and post it to you so that you can feel the handwriting and keep it for memory but I bet haven’t written a single letter.

Having said all that I haven’t made any resolution this year, but I have made few goals and plan to achieve them, hopefully.

1.       To join Gym or do Yoga everyday! I know not going to happen as routine keeps changing due to office timings and then takes time to get back to the old routine.  But I will try.

2.       To join Teach for India, or MAD after going back to Hyderabad.

3.       To complete my next novel and get it published.

4.       To visit Goa!

5.       To do an Art of living course in Bangalore.

6.       To visit my Granny’s or Nani’s home.

7.       To go to Jalandhar and Jaipur (or whole of Rajasthan) before moving back to Hyderabad.

8.       To visit Calcutta in Durga Pujo to my friend’s place.

9.       To plan a trip to Dubai or Singapore or Andaman Nicobar with my family.

10.   The most. Important.  – I can’t reveal that right now. But will let you know once done.

With that I am hoping 2014 will FLY! I know I have very less time to do what I want to! I feel I am growing old a little quickly. But that’s okay. I just ask god to give me the courage and help me letting me in do what I actually want to do and not ‘what I have to do because of pressure’. 

I remember it was few days ago when I wrote a blog last year welcoming 2013 and today I am writing a blog welcoming 2014. Too quick. Time need to take some time.

Read the book published if haven't yet. 

SET ME F.R.E.E - First!

S.E.T ME FREE! Please. I am tired. When I say tired I mean it. I was told life is a beautiful place and we need to live it to the fullest. Yes! Then why is it that people force you to do things that you don’t want to. Why is it that you have to think about Society before taking any decision that makes you happy? Why can’t you just be the way you are and act the way you want. Why is it that you always have to act as per others and when you don’t you disappoint them? Why is it that when you are quiet people question you, and when you talk too much they think there is something wrong?

I have seen in India or in Indian culture - There is one thing that is not right, and that’s societal pressure. Infact from the time we all are born we are asked to behave in a certain way, act in a certain way, talk in a certain way, and react in a certain way. Why? I mean why do you want the child to learn the following way and follow the same through his or her life? Why can’t you just let him learn his way? Why?

When we are born, we really don’t know anything about this world. We don’t know who we are. We just know how to play, and have fun. We don’t know how this world (Or I should say ‘India’ differs between a girl and a guy).We don’t know how to react but slowly we are being forced to learn these things and follow. We are being said“ Don’t do this, Don’t do that, Don’t talk like this, Don’t talk like that, You need to respect elders, you need to touch elders feet, you need to talk like this to a girl, and like this to a guy, these are the things that you don’t need to say, you don’t need to talk bad”… A guy is being asked to stay away from a girl and a girl is kept away from guy. When a girl is mature enough to understand things and when a guy knows what he is supposed to do they try to come closer and that is as well not accepted by OUR society.  One day, a girl is asked to get married to unknown person and sleep with him. But a girl is not allowed to get married to a person whom she loves. I don’t understand why FEW INDIANS are still living with this mentality.

  

These things develop a mindset and that is “Okay, so I need to act as per what I am being told and if I act the other way I will be wrong”. We don’t try to tell the reason but just ask the kid to behave in a certain way. That way we start ‘ACTING’, and our real self is hidden somewhere deep down inside. We are afraid to bring that REAL SELF in front of people thinking that will not be liked by the societal norms.

So, if a girl laughs too much she is considered exposed and not that respectful. If a girl talks loud she is very LOUD and powerful; the family does not like it. When a guy comes to see a girl the basic thing that is expected out of a girl is: Does she know HOW TO COOK, does she know how to keep the house clean, does she know how to raise kids, and is she soft spoken? Is she fair? Will she able to produce kids? Is she ready to sacrifice her career if asked to? Is she ready to give birth to a kid when the Mother in law is in needs of a kid?

Is that really a good thing? Expecting sooo much out of a person, is that right? We are born as humans and are expected to do certain things in life, but is it necessary to FOLLOW THE SAME PATTERN that “WE are asked to”? Why can’t we live life as per out own conditions and wish? Why is it that if a girl or a guy does not want to get married is still questioned at?  Why is it that society still thinks that if a girl is not getting married than surely the fault is hers? Why is it that if a girl or a guy needs space then surely something is wrong? Why it is that still few Indians are that sick to think that a girl is a lesbian or a guy is a gay is he/she does not have a girlfriend or a boyfriend? Why is it that it is assumed that if a girl gets a little old like 28 then it’s difficult to get a good guy for marriage?

What is wrong with our society? There is surely something very wrong that we need to correct or else we will lose our real self. In fact we have lost the most of it. We are not happy in real sense because the definition of freedom is something that we still need to learn. Why don’t we just stop lying to each other and start living on truth.

We are educated but why is it that we still act like illiterates? People who are so called M.B.A’s or have studied engineering act like they are just illiterates and don’t know anything. They will show that they are modernized and very modern but when it comes to following it they will back out. If someone is open they will back bite and make fun. If someone is laughing his heart out, they will feel ashamed because the person laughs too much or talks very loud.  

When will we actually grow and educate ourselves? When will we stop having double standards and actually modernize ourselves with thoughts and bring it in action?

I surely realize that EDUCATION does not educate a person, but a mind and heart that is open for things is what I will call a real education.

Please set us free! Stop judging, stop commenting, and stop reacting! JUST LIVE!

I am sorry but you need to SET ME (PEOPLE) FREE TO LET ME LIVE TO THE FULLEST!

DESTINED TO BE . . .

How do you find a perfect person in your life? How do you know if someone is the right choice? Or how do you know if the person you choose will be the one you have always wanted? How do you know if the life you are living is what you deserved or how do you know if the loss you have suffered is what is destined? How do you know if everything that you have got in life is something that you have been destined with?

There is no correct answer for this but just an assumption that whatever is happening is happening because it is destined to be. I know, I know it sounds so much philosophical but that is what people say and that is what everyone on this earth says. Do you really believe on this?

Is it really true that whatever happened or happens in your life is already been decided by someone?

Is it true that everything is pre-planned?

Is it true that every small glass or human is moved by someone’s wish and that someone is unknown?

Is it true that we meet people not by chance but as destined? Or is it true that if someone hurts you or breaks your trust then that is as well destined?

 These questions are highly philosophical and not most of us want to think about them. But it makes me think because things just happen and we don’t even realize how, when and where. Everything is pre-planned as per what I think .From birth to death, from marriage to kids, from whom your parents will be and with whom you will be forever.  If it is not planned then who is the one doing it? How are things happening that are actually happening in our life?

I had this urge to do so many things in life, but it didn't turn up. I turned up to be someone who I never thought will be. When I was graduating the interviewer asked me a question and the question was “Where do you see yourself in next five years”. As usual I said I see myself as a manager in the company I am working with. Also I see myself as a successful professional. At that point I never knew I will be a write, voracious reader and an author or the book “My Vows Remain Unchanged”. I never thought I will work with Deloitte for three long years and still will feel to continue to love U.S. Taxation. I mean things just happen if it had to and if that is not destined in your destiny then no matter how hard you try it won’t happen.

I am sure writing this blog is destined, my thoughts have been destined, talking to people whom I talk is destined, and everything happening in my life is a result of the destiny that I have been assigned to.  I have seen best buddies becoming enemies, I have seen brothers fighting, I have seen lovers departing and I believe it is all the game of destiny.

Well, with this thought I would leave you thinking if you agree to what I have written or not. If you believe in destiny then just believe on it and let things happen. And if you do not believe on destiny then just remember the moment when you tried how to get something in life, still couldn’t get it, that is destiny.  

Hot Shot - Four months is a long time.

My last blog was written on? . . . Can anyone of you guess how many days it had been? Or maybe months? One month? Or two? Or three? Or max four?

Let me tell you. . . It has almost been four months (When I wrote this blog it was four months, and today it had been five complete months).  since I have written anything. Believe me from the time I have started writing, this is the first time EVER when I haven’t written anything for four long months (Like FOUR LONG MONTHS). I am myself shocked on this that I have had so many things to share but I haven’t written anything about any one of them.

It happens right, at times that you know what your passion is but you are not able to follow it for a reason or the other. The same happened with me. I picked up the blogs to write, but left them half written, and saved them as drafts in my documents folder. Writing has always been a kind of art for me. It makes me freebie from my worries and tensions. It makes me feel light after expressing what I feel for something. Writing helps me in knowing my own self. From gone by four months everything has been inside me and has accumulated in my mind and heart.

So, today, I am going to talk about four things that happened in my life in past four months. 

# Work:

Yes, I have been working like hell from past four months. The only thing I did that Deloitte taught me is to work like crazy in busy season and party hard after that. But, working like hell is an issue. And when I say working like hell means working 12-14 hours a day and at time even 16 hours. You have to give up on your leisure time, you have to sacrifice your weekends and you have to not bother about how you look and your eyebrows. But the busy season makes me feel that I am capable of working that much. It is a reality check of your own self, of your patience and learning.

# Disputes:

One bad thing about me is I want to be fair with everyone, and I treat everyone equally. If I see something wrong happening near my space I stand for it and try to correct it. Now when I try to correct it, for sure I make few enemies. Now when I make enemies, should I stop being fair or should I support people in doing wrong? Nope. I don’t think so. So in these four months, I again made few enemies, fought with people, and proved my points each time I thought something was wrong.  Now it had happened may times that I thought something was wrong but I couldn't say anything for that or couldn't take a stand.  The issue is if I am not able to say something for the wrong happenings I can’t be relaxed from within and will keep thinking about the same leading to my own loss of blood.

# Experience:

No matter how much you have experienced in life, it is never going to be enough. Every day or the other will bring something new that you have not experienced before. And every-time you think you will keep the experience in mind so that next time you won’t suffer the same but it doesn't work like that. You will again have the same experience but with different learning this time. Same experience twice or thrice teaches you different lessons. 

In-fact experience is never ending. Even after 5 years you will keep experiencing new things that you haven’t experienced before. At the age of 60 you will experience something that you haven’t experienced till then. But yes, you still need to keep learning from those experiences. God, I am tired of experiencing new things all the times but what to do . . . it keeps going on!

And last but not the least. . .

# It’s just life and it will keep going on.

 Yes, we take things too seriously and we react on things. We can’t take if something unfair is happening with us, and want to set it right. Setting it right makes it gets more worst, and at the end the result is zero. People these days are biased and they are double faced. But, you can’t help it. You will see double faced people everywhere. Yes, we always need to make sure to stand for the right and fight for the wrong but if it doesn't work out, then just let it GO!

Okay, so with this I complete my blog after complete four months and hoping to right every week from now onward.

Achievement to be shared:

Published ONLY 71 articles on this blog and have reached 50,000 views.

Keep reading and share the website to your friends. And do get my book if have not read yet. J

A crazy fan of Big Boss 7!

P.S.: Is it just me who feels that people do wrong things purposely and they pull you down on a purpose or everyone? I assume the later one. J 

MY ACTION PLAN!

So, I was writing something for the blog and as usual, my mind went all over the places. I started thinking about everything under the sun; about life, friends, mom, dad, sister, brother, my book's new cover, about the next novel, how to concentrate, revenge, hatred, trust and evrythinggggggggg else that usually human being thinks about; like I will drink Orange juice every day- By. Default., I will wash my face 4 times a day- By. Default.  (it's very hot here in Delhi/Gurgaon), that I will pack my things, and what will I work tomorrow in office, the trip to Jaipur that we are planning,  etc etc etc...

It happens with many of us, especially who wants to write. To 'focus' is the major concern of the writers. Since people usually write on laptop that is connected with internet so instead of writing our mind goes to the Facebook updates, YouTube videos, updating tweets, and most of the time go-ogling about something unwanted or not that important at that moment of time. Most of us Want to write but are not able to write. There may be concentration issues or determination. 

I was trying to understand my own situation and trying to figure out that what is it that stops me and many other people along with me to not write. I came with up with few things that stops me to write on a regular basis. 

First was concentration: Whenever I open an article to finish or start, I am surely out of focus and my concentration is more on other things rather than writing. I am more interested in doing Facebook or researching about something. Writing requires a lot of focus and most of the times you lack that to put out your thoughts on paper. 

Second was I couldn't find something interesting to write: Many times I start writing and then the article does not excite me to write it or complete it. I lose interest in the article myself and that makes me to stop there. Next thing I do is to re write the article, well re writing does not work for best - TRASH is what I get and the article is there in drafts folder for months. 

Third is external environment: That affects me a lot, in fact quite a few times. I see people watching movie, going out, just finishing their office work and then enjoying their free time doing nothing. When it comes to me after my office life there is another life waiting - MY Author's life. I sometimes don't want to write at all and enjoy the life like other people are. When after few days I realize that I am wasting my time after work, I get back to writing. 

So I have an action plan for myself going forward. 

The best and easiest thing that will make me to write is 'One word challenge to my own self'. Yes - so what I will do is every week or fortnight I will give myself a word that I have experienced or want to experience and will write on that. Say for example - Crush :), or Love, or Life, or Jealousy, or Career, or Goal. So with that one word I would some up my own experience in life! 

That is so exciting, isn’t it? Let me start with this next month!

Till then you can come up with your own plan of writing. 

PLEASE CHANGE DO NOT COME AGAIN...

Change is inevitable. Change is always needed. Sometimes change is for good, or sometimes it is for worse. Is change always required? Do we always need to take the opportunity if it is allowing you to change your place or your job or your present stature?

Most of the people here will say, Hmm..it depends. Few will say change is always good as it gives you new opportunities and new ways to achieve your goals. For few it’s a way to follow their dreams. For few it’s just a change that is needed to come out their routine life and form a new routine by inculcating the change. Which one do you belong to?

If you ask me, I fall in the last category. I changed my location just because my life was monotonous. Now monotonous surely does not mean boring. My life was exciting as I was working on my next novel, I was going to office and enjoying working there, I had a routine and I loved it. I just loved my life. But then for me change was just a thought of coming out of my comfort zone.

Was it needed? Necessarily not…

What was the purpose of the change? Nothing specific; just thought of coming out of the comfort zone.

Why did I want to come out of the comfort zone? I don’t know. People said it is always good to explore new places.  

What were the factors I considered before opting for the change? Nothing as such. I just went with the flow and persuasion.

When I answer the above questions myself, I realize that I actually did not want the change. But I was just fascinated by the word change. As we all know change is exciting. You think you will altogether go into the new lifestyle and that is fascinating. Even when your life itself is complete, you look for change that is necessarily not needed at that point of time.

My mom always said, ‘we love when we know people around us. We love when we stay at the same place for years and are still happy’. She always told me change only if it is needed. But I never listened to her or my dad for that matter. I always told them ‘How can you stay at the same place for years and still not getting bored of life’. She always asked me back ‘what is the need when you have everything?’  

Today when I look back at my life I understand what she exactly meant. When you are happy why do you need a change?

Such a beautiful thought!

I realize now that I never needed a change, and I was happy where I was. But still I opted for change and now I want to go back to where I was.

With that I leave you guys with one thing:

Always ask yourself Why, why am I doing this? Before you want a change in your life always ask why do I need this?

What is it bringing in my life?  

If you get a satisfying answer then go ahead for the change. Or else the place where you are presently is a happy place too. Just turn a bit and look at your life again!

LISTEN TO YOUR HEART!

There are times when you take certain decision not knowing the reason behind it. Even if you know the reason, you are not completely satisfied with the reason, but still console yourself saying ‘This is the right thing to do’. Even when your heart talks something different, you console your mind to consider the decision for your own betterment. Even when people near you, your friends, and your parents asks you to reconsider your decision; you stick on to your decision even when your heart wants to listen to them.

Believe me; I have always made this mistake of not listening to my heart and listen to my mind. Mind always thinks logically and looks at the benefits, and weighs the options. But heart does not do this entire thing. Heart never weighs the options but it simply tells you if something is right or wrong. Whenever there are decisions that I have made on based on the logic or by getting influenced I have suffered a huge loss.

Listening to heart is very difficult, because it gives you the clear cut answer to your problem. If it does not like something then your heart will say don’t do this, or don’t go there. But you try to avoid what your heart says to you and then start listening to your mind, who tells you the options and pros and cons. Once you listen to your mind, you divert your heart thinking mind is saying right.

When you take certain decisions based on your mind and against your heart, you possibly suffer later.

Everytime I commit a mistake of not listening to my heart, I say to myself ‘Enough, now going on I am going to do what my heart says’. But again I commit the same mistake.  I listen to my mind and ignore what my heart says.

But now, I surely have decided I will only do things that my heart allows me to do. I am not going to get influenced by anyone, nor will think the logic behind the decision if my heart is not in allowance with this.

Remember, if you make a decision people will be standing with you, but if it does not work out they will start blaming you for taking the decision. So always listen to your heart and then make a decision. The decision should be purely your own decision. If you think there is others influence or if your heart does not allow then better take a step back and think again. Listen to your heart; even if one beat of it says ‘No’ then it’s a no!

I wish this bad time does not last long in my life. I hate JUNE and this time of my life.

God save me from taking wrong decisions! Not any more please!!!!!!!!

अँधेरी दुनिया और अँधा इन्सान!!

 यह घोर कलयुग है , सुना था मैंने 

चारो और अँधेरा छाएगा, सुना था मैंने 

लोग, लोगो को तकलीफ पहुचाएंगे सुना था मैंने 

अँधेरी दुनिया, और अँधा इन्सान बस यही कहा था मैंने !

वो दिन कहा गुम हो गए जब माँ को प्यार से हम गले लगा लिया करते  थे?

जब पापा को घर आने के पहले कुछ मीठा लाने को कहते थे?

जब भाई से झघढ कर, एक टुकड़ा ज्यादा खा लेने पर खुश हो जाया करते थे?

अँधेरी दुनिया और अँधेरा इंसान बस यही सोचा मैंने!

क्या घोर कलयुग है ! 

आज 'कूल' वोह नहीं जो घर को घर समझे 

पर कूल वह है जो घरवालो को अहमियत न देकर अंजानो को अपना बनाये 

जो भारतीय सभ्यता को पिछाडा बताये और सूट ,सारी पहनी महिलाओ को 'नोट सो कूल' समझे 

अँधेरी दुनिया और अँधा इंसान बस यही कहा मैंने। 

क्या तुम अब तक वर्जिन हो? पूछ कर कूल होने का सबुत मांगे 

कितनी लडकियों को घुमाया पूछ कर सफलता का मोहरा लगाये 

लडकियों के कॉल आने पर यह बताये के कितनो के साथ सोये है 

अँधेरी दुनिया और अँधा इंसान, लीला अपरम्पार!  

काश लोग समझ पाते, काश के मैं कह पाती 

के सफलता बॉयफ्रेंड या गर्लफ्रेंड बनाने मे

या किसी से तारीफ पाने मैं नहीं 

बल्कि अपने आप मैं खुश रहना और संतुष्ट रहने मे है!

काश के मैं कह पाती

अंग्रेजी मे बात करने वाले और हिंदी को तुच्छ कहने वाले

पहले अपने गिरेबान मे झाके, अपने विचारो को खोले 

क्या अंग्रेजी न आने पर या बॉयफ्रेंड/गर्लफ्रेंड न होने पर कोई अच्छा या आधुनिक नहीं होता?

    

सुन्दरता, गोरा या सावला होने मे नहीं, बल्कि मन से साफ़ रहने मे है

पर इस कलयुग मे अँधेरी दुनिया है और अँधेरा इंसान!

ना पापी को सज़ा मिलती है और ना निर्दोष को बेल। 

अँधेरी दुनिया 

और उसमे 

अँधेरे इंसान!

 वाह यह लीला अपरंपार।   

न आज की पढ़ी यह समझेगी और न समझना चाहेगी 

क्युकि सभी इस दुनिया को जीतना चाहते है जो कभी उनकी है हे नहीं!

अँधा इंसान और अँधेरी दुनिया।