Monday, June 24, 2013

MY ACTION PLAN!

So, I was writing something for the blog and as usual, my mind went all over the places. I started thinking about everything under the sun; about life, friends, mom, dad, sister, brother, my book's new cover, about the next novel, how to concentrate, revenge, hatred, trust and evrythinggggggggg else that usually human being thinks about; like I will drink Orange juice every day- By. Default., I will wash my face 4 times a day- By. Default.  (it's very hot here in Delhi/Gurgaon), that I will pack my things, and what will I work tomorrow in office, the trip to Jaipur that we are planning,  etc etc etc...

It happens with many of us, especially who wants to write. To 'focus' is the major concern of the writers. Since people usually write on laptop that is connected with internet so instead of writing our mind goes to the Facebook updates, YouTube videos, updating tweets, and most of the time go-ogling about something unwanted or not that important at that moment of time. Most of us Want to write but are not able to write. There may be concentration issues or determination. 

I was trying to understand my own situation and trying to figure out that what is it that stops me and many other people along with me to not write. I came with up with few things that stops me to write on a regular basis. 

First was concentration: Whenever I open an article to finish or start, I am surely out of focus and my concentration is more on other things rather than writing. I am more interested in doing Facebook or researching about something. Writing requires a lot of focus and most of the times you lack that to put out your thoughts on paper. 

Second was I couldn't find something interesting to write: Many times I start writing and then the article does not excite me to write it or complete it. I lose interest in the article myself and that makes me to stop there. Next thing I do is to re write the article, well re writing does not work for best - TRASH is what I get and the article is there in drafts folder for months. 

Third is external environment: That affects me a lot, in fact quite a few times. I see people watching movie, going out, just finishing their office work and then enjoying their free time doing nothing. When it comes to me after my office life there is another life waiting - MY Author's life. I sometimes don't want to write at all and enjoy the life like other people are. When after few days I realize that I am wasting my time after work, I get back to writing. 

So I have an action plan for myself going forward. 

The best and easiest thing that will make me to write is 'One word challenge to my own self'. Yes - so what I will do is every week or fortnight I will give myself a word that I have experienced or want to experience and will write on that. Say for example - Crush :), or Love, or Life, or Jealousy, or Career, or Goal. So with that one word I would some up my own experience in life! 

That is so exciting, isn’t it? Let me start with this next month!

Till then you can come up with your own plan of writing. 


Sunday, June 16, 2013

PLEASE CHANGE DO NOT COME AGAIN...

Change is inevitable. Change is always needed. Sometimes change is for good, or sometimes it is for worse. Is change always required? Do we always need to take the opportunity if it is allowing you to change your place or your job or your present stature?

Most of the people here will say, Hmm..it depends. Few will say change is always good as it gives you new opportunities and new ways to achieve your goals. For few it’s a way to follow their dreams. For few it’s just a change that is needed to come out their routine life and form a new routine by inculcating the change. Which one do you belong to?

If you ask me, I fall in the last category. I changed my location just because my life was monotonous. Now monotonous surely does not mean boring. My life was exciting as I was working on my next novel, I was going to office and enjoying working there, I had a routine and I loved it. I just loved my life. But then for me change was just a thought of coming out of my comfort zone.

Was it needed? Necessarily not…

What was the purpose of the change? Nothing specific; just thought of coming out of the comfort zone.

Why did I want to come out of the comfort zone? I don’t know. People said it is always good to explore new places.  

What were the factors I considered before opting for the change? Nothing as such. I just went with the flow and persuasion.

When I answer the above questions myself, I realize that I actually did not want the change. But I was just fascinated by the word change. As we all know change is exciting. You think you will altogether go into the new lifestyle and that is fascinating. Even when your life itself is complete, you look for change that is necessarily not needed at that point of time.

My mom always said, ‘we love when we know people around us. We love when we stay at the same place for years and are still happy’. She always told me change only if it is needed. But I never listened to her or my dad for that matter. I always told them ‘How can you stay at the same place for years and still not getting bored of life’. She always asked me back ‘what is the need when you have everything?’  

Today when I look back at my life I understand what she exactly meant. When you are happy why do you need a change?

Such a beautiful thought!

I realize now that I never needed a change, and I was happy where I was. But still I opted for change and now I want to go back to where I was.

With that I leave you guys with one thing:

Always ask yourself Why, why am I doing this? Before you want a change in your life always ask why do I need this?

What is it bringing in my life?  


If you get a satisfying answer then go ahead for the change. Or else the place where you are presently is a happy place too. Just turn a bit and look at your life again!

Thursday, June 13, 2013

LISTEN TO YOUR HEART!

There are times when you take certain decision not knowing the reason behind it. Even if you know the reason, you are not completely satisfied with the reason, but still console yourself saying ‘This is the right thing to do’. Even when your heart talks something different, you console your mind to consider the decision for your own betterment. Even when people near you, your friends, and your parents asks you to reconsider your decision; you stick on to your decision even when your heart wants to listen to them.

Believe me; I have always made this mistake of not listening to my heart and listen to my mind. Mind always thinks logically and looks at the benefits, and weighs the options. But heart does not do this entire thing. Heart never weighs the options but it simply tells you if something is right or wrong. Whenever there are decisions that I have made on based on the logic or by getting influenced I have suffered a huge loss.

Listening to heart is very difficult, because it gives you the clear cut answer to your problem. If it does not like something then your heart will say don’t do this, or don’t go there. But you try to avoid what your heart says to you and then start listening to your mind, who tells you the options and pros and cons. Once you listen to your mind, you divert your heart thinking mind is saying right.

When you take certain decisions based on your mind and against your heart, you possibly suffer later.
Everytime I commit a mistake of not listening to my heart, I say to myself ‘Enough, now going on I am going to do what my heart says’. But again I commit the same mistake.  I listen to my mind and ignore what my heart says.

But now, I surely have decided I will only do things that my heart allows me to do. I am not going to get influenced by anyone, nor will think the logic behind the decision if my heart is not in allowance with this.
Remember, if you make a decision people will be standing with you, but if it does not work out they will start blaming you for taking the decision. So always listen to your heart and then make a decision. The decision should be purely your own decision. If you think there is others influence or if your heart does not allow then better take a step back and think again. Listen to your heart; even if one beat of it says ‘No’ then it’s a no!

I wish this bad time does not last long in my life. I hate JUNE and this time of my life.


God save me from taking wrong decisions! Not any more please!!!!!!!!

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