Saturday, February 15, 2014

Inspiration, Happiness and Success.

I was thinking today, infact this thought comes to my mind very often that why are we not satisfied with our life? I mean I can’t generalize but I can say most of us are not happy with where we are and what we are.  Most of the people try to be happy and satisfied by external factors and internally they have a sense of dissatisfaction. I gave it a deeper thought and realized we always want more. . . I mean more and more. When someone wants to achieve so much it’s because he is not satisfied with his present state or looking at others he feel small and so strive for better. May be few people are very passionate about doing something but they surely demand “Importance and appreciation” in return.

Let us understand it a little better. Let us talk about someone who wants to be famous, and who wants to be on the top; someone who is really passionate and works really hard to beat others. Now, when he works hard, and strives for success - what does he actually want in return? Is it just the success? If yes then how will he be successful?  So, let’s say he was able to do what he wanted to do in life but still he is not happy.

Can anyone guess why?

Here is the thought process that goes along with success.

Success has different meaning and dimension to different people. For some success is as simple as earning two times bread and meal, having a family, kids, and a routine life. These are the people who believe success is raising kids and taking care of them. These are the people who think about family first and then about others. For them it does not matter that how much Anil Ambani or Angelina Jolie is earning but for them what is important is what is that their kids want and how to complete their kids’ education in a good college.

Now let’s talk about other kind of people – The one who always wants to be successful but their definition of success is completely different from what I have mentioned above.

When they say they want to be successful, then for them life is beyond wedding, wife/husband, kids and their family.  For them success is comparing with others and be on the top notch. For them success is “Appreciation” and “Importance”. Also for them success is huge fan following and people telling them that they are a role model. If they do not get all this then they consider themselves “Not so successful compared to others”. So if you don’t appreciate them, or they don’t get importance they will probably do something else that helps them to achieve that.  

What is the basis difference between two kinds of people?

The first kinds are Internal driven, and does not depend on others to call themselves successful.
While the second kind of people are the one who are externally driven. They need a lot of praise from others to consider that they are actually successful.  

With this post I just wanted to tell one thing – Your Life is your life. If someone considers you a failure then you are not at all answerable to them. You decide your priority and you decide what success means to you.

Talking about inspiration we all have different inspirations in life that motivates us to do things and follow our dream. Not necessarily that your inspiration should be actor, or a writer or a famous business person but inspiration can be anyone who just motivates you to do things in life – things can be as small as cooking or as big as becoming an actor.

Inspiration can be anyone – even a factory worker can be your inspiration who teaches you that hard work is important in life. A house wife can be your inspiration who teaches you to sacrifice and becoming a mother leaving her aspirations aside. A not so successful person (unsuccessful in your yes) can be your inspiration if he is happy for what he is.

If you are happy in what you have, no matter how small it is, then no one is more successful than you. And if you are not happy even after you have so much then no one is unhappy than you. Leave aside this show off where people show their cricket match passes, or restaurants pics, or their new watch. Believe me we all do the same things what others are doing, just that for some appreciation is needed at every step to grow while others are just self-motivated. The more you be on the self-side the more happy and composed you are. 

So I would conclude this with few things:

1.       You define what you are.
2.       You define your aspirations and dreams.
3.       You define what you want to achieve in life.
4.       You define your success.
5.       You define your happiness.
6.       Last but not the least – you define your LIFE.


You know who you are, so stop pretending it to others who don’t know who you are! 

Friday, January 3, 2014

Posting a letter - Someday, someday.

HAPPY NEW YEAR 2014. It’s 2014 and this is my first article for this year (First, hoping not the last). I have been writing this article from few weeks now and still writing after three weeks of drafts. It’s 12:25 AM and Arvind Kejriwal is the new chief minister for 6 months atleast after winning the Trust votes from congress.  Few say it’s a good decision and few say that he couldn’t stand on his words. Yes, Kejriwal said that he won’t take support from either congress or BJP and would stand in opposition if needed. What I feel will be included in the next article that I am writing specifically on Arvind Kejriwal and his decision.


So it’s 2014, and till now I don’t feel anything different except the fact that I am year older, and close to oldness. Also, I feel the date is different and rest everything is the same. I feel one year actually passed quickly. I wanted this year to get over soon, so that I can enter in 2014, but this year got over pretty quickly. I think the reason time is passing so quickly is because of the things we are engaged in. In older times, there was no internet, no laptop, no latest equipment’s or IPad. So when they didn’t had all the referred things, people used to get more time with themselves and talking to people around them. The few things that they had to do were go for work, come back, listen to radio or watch T.V. when it was there, have food and then go for walk, or chat.

Another interesting thing that used to happen at that time was writing letters and posting them to relatives. These days there is no time to write letter or post them as people just ping and talk or chat for a while. I think that I will write atleast 2 letters a month and will post it to my close friends or mom, or relatives to get in touch with them instead of phone or internet.  But with the kind of lifestyle that we are in, it gets difficult to get out of the comfort zone and do such things. I told my mother last time when I visited her that I will write a letter and post it to you so that you can feel the handwriting and keep it for memory but I bet haven’t written a single letter.

Having said all that I haven’t made any resolution this year, but I have made few goals and plan to achieve them, hopefully.

1.       To join Gym or do Yoga everyday! I know not going to happen as routine keeps changing due to office timings and then takes time to get back to the old routine.  But I will try.

2.       To join Teach for India, or MAD after going back to Hyderabad.

3.       To complete my next novel and get it published.

4.       To visit Goa!

5.       To do an Art of living course in Bangalore.

6.       To visit my Granny’s or Nani’s home.

7.       To go to Jalandhar and Jaipur (or whole of Rajasthan) before moving back to Hyderabad.

8.       To visit Calcutta in Durga Pujo to my friend’s place.

9.       To plan a trip to Dubai or Singapore or Andaman Nicobar with my family.

10.   The most. Important.  – I can’t reveal that right now. But will let you know once done.

With that I am hoping 2014 will FLY! I know I have very less time to do what I want to! I feel I am growing old a little quickly. But that’s okay. I just ask god to give me the courage and help me letting me in do what I actually want to do and not ‘what I have to do because of pressure’. 

I remember it was few days ago when I wrote a blog last year welcoming 2013 and today I am writing a blog welcoming 2014. Too quick. Time need to take some time.




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